Pengertian anak secara umum dipahami masyarakat adalah keturunan kedua setelah ayah dan ibu (W.J.S Poedarminta 1992:38-39). Pengertian ini memberikan gambaran bahwa anak tersebut adalah turunan dari ayah dan ibu sebagai turunan pertama. Jadi anak adalah
suatu kondisi akibat adanya perkawinan antara kedua orang tuanya,
sekalipun dari hubungan yang tidak sah dalam kaca mata hukum. Ia tetap
dinamakan anak, sehingga pada definisi ini tidak dibatasi dengan usia.
Anak merupakan makhluk yang membutuhkan pemeliharaan kasih sayang dan tempat bagi perkembangannya. Selain itu, anak merupakan bagian dari keluarga, dan keluarga memberi kesempatan bagi anak untuk belajar tingkah laku yang penting untuk perkembangan yang cukup baik dalam kehidupan bersama (Sumadi Suryabrata 2000:3).
Namun, untuk menentukan batas usia dalam hal definisi anak, maka akan didapatkan berbagai macam batasan usia anak mengingat beragamnya definisi batasan usia anak dalam beberapa undang-undang, misalnya:
1. Kitab Undang-Undang Hukum Perdata.
Dalam hukum perdata, pengertian anak lebih ditegaskan dengan pengertian ‘’kebelumdewasaan’’, sebagaimana terdapat dalam KUHPer Pasal 330 yang berbunyi ; ‘’Yang belum dewasa adalah mereka yang belum mencapai umur genap dua puluh satu tahundan tidak kawin sebelumnya.’’
2. Let go of the fantasy.
Many people don’t realize that a large majority of the pain they experience during a break-up has nothing to do with the relationship they really had. Relationships always end for a reason. It is rarely a complete surprise because things generally haven’t been going well for a while. There is often a long list of what each person did or didn’t do that led to all the fighting and hurt feelings. Most people don’t want back the relationship they actually had. What they mourn for is the relationship they thought they could have had if things had just been different. But the truth is, that relationship didn’t exist. Letting go of a dream can be painful. When the relationship first started there were expectations set for what it could be based on the good things that seemed to be unfolding at the time. Almost all relationships are great in the beginning—otherwise they would have never started—but the whole of a relationship is what it was from beginning to end.
3. Make peace with the past.
When someone treats you poorly or does something hurtful, it is a natural and healthy response to feel some anger. Anger helps you be aware of situations that are not in your best interest and can facilitate the separation process from an unhealthy relationship. But when we hold on to anger and resentment from past experiences we take them with us into the future. Nothing hurts more than when someone you love does something that causes you to reevaluate who you believed them to be. When someone betrays the trust you gave, it is painful. But letting what someone else did limit your ability to move forward means they still exert control over your life. Forgiveness isn’t about letting someone else off the hook for his or her bad behavior; it is about your emotional freedom.
4. Know it is OK to still love them.
Love is never wrong. When someone comes into your life who allows you the opportunity to experience love, that is always a true gift. Part of maturity, however, is recognizing that love by itself isn’t always enough to make a relationship work. Many other factors and circumstances, such as timing, incompatible values, or the choices we make, play a significant role in whether a relationship can thrive. But moving on from a relationship that isn’t working isn’t always about ending the love you feel. Sometimes the only way to let go is to love someone enough to want the best for him or her even if that means not being together.
5. Love yourself more.
Ultimately, moving on from a relationship that wasn’t working is about loving yourself. For some, this is the hardest part. Believing that you deserve to be in a loving relationship with someone who shares your values and treats you well requires that you view yourself in a positive light. If just the thought of this seems daunting because your inner dialogue is filled with negative self-doubt, criticism, or self-loathing, you may need to enlist the help of a professional. You can’t expect someone else to treat you better than you treat yourself.
Anak merupakan makhluk yang membutuhkan pemeliharaan kasih sayang dan tempat bagi perkembangannya. Selain itu, anak merupakan bagian dari keluarga, dan keluarga memberi kesempatan bagi anak untuk belajar tingkah laku yang penting untuk perkembangan yang cukup baik dalam kehidupan bersama (Sumadi Suryabrata 2000:3).
Namun, untuk menentukan batas usia dalam hal definisi anak, maka akan didapatkan berbagai macam batasan usia anak mengingat beragamnya definisi batasan usia anak dalam beberapa undang-undang, misalnya:
1. Kitab Undang-Undang Hukum Perdata.
Dalam hukum perdata, pengertian anak lebih ditegaskan dengan pengertian ‘’kebelumdewasaan’’, sebagaimana terdapat dalam KUHPer Pasal 330 yang berbunyi ; ‘’Yang belum dewasa adalah mereka yang belum mencapai umur genap dua puluh satu tahundan tidak kawin sebelumnya.’’
2. Let go of the fantasy.
Many people don’t realize that a large majority of the pain they experience during a break-up has nothing to do with the relationship they really had. Relationships always end for a reason. It is rarely a complete surprise because things generally haven’t been going well for a while. There is often a long list of what each person did or didn’t do that led to all the fighting and hurt feelings. Most people don’t want back the relationship they actually had. What they mourn for is the relationship they thought they could have had if things had just been different. But the truth is, that relationship didn’t exist. Letting go of a dream can be painful. When the relationship first started there were expectations set for what it could be based on the good things that seemed to be unfolding at the time. Almost all relationships are great in the beginning—otherwise they would have never started—but the whole of a relationship is what it was from beginning to end.
3. Make peace with the past.
When someone treats you poorly or does something hurtful, it is a natural and healthy response to feel some anger. Anger helps you be aware of situations that are not in your best interest and can facilitate the separation process from an unhealthy relationship. But when we hold on to anger and resentment from past experiences we take them with us into the future. Nothing hurts more than when someone you love does something that causes you to reevaluate who you believed them to be. When someone betrays the trust you gave, it is painful. But letting what someone else did limit your ability to move forward means they still exert control over your life. Forgiveness isn’t about letting someone else off the hook for his or her bad behavior; it is about your emotional freedom.
4. Know it is OK to still love them.
Love is never wrong. When someone comes into your life who allows you the opportunity to experience love, that is always a true gift. Part of maturity, however, is recognizing that love by itself isn’t always enough to make a relationship work. Many other factors and circumstances, such as timing, incompatible values, or the choices we make, play a significant role in whether a relationship can thrive. But moving on from a relationship that isn’t working isn’t always about ending the love you feel. Sometimes the only way to let go is to love someone enough to want the best for him or her even if that means not being together.
5. Love yourself more.
Ultimately, moving on from a relationship that wasn’t working is about loving yourself. For some, this is the hardest part. Believing that you deserve to be in a loving relationship with someone who shares your values and treats you well requires that you view yourself in a positive light. If just the thought of this seems daunting because your inner dialogue is filled with negative self-doubt, criticism, or self-loathing, you may need to enlist the help of a professional. You can’t expect someone else to treat you better than you treat yourself.
